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3. The Value Of Sport

Recently I have become involved with an organization called KidSport (refer to Links) which is about removing financial barriers so that all kids can experience the positive benefits of organized sport.  The very first Kidsport event I attended was actually a financial donor recognition breakfast held in Vancouver earlier in the fall in which I heard some very inspiring people talk about their experiences and the value of sport for youth in the development of healthy bodies and healthy minds.

I was proud to share with them a story that my wife had relayed to me only the night before about our five-year-old son’s second (ever) hockey practice.  I asked her how it went and she said that he was skating better and better each time but that he was also still lying on his back in the middle of the ice quite a bit.  In fact there was one drill that the kids were doing in which it appeared that they were skating around him like a pylon as he lay on his back making a snow angel!  I honestly found that to be really funny but my wife got me thinking when she pointed out that of the three teams on the single ice surface, you didn’t see any other kid doing that!

In any case, it was an inspiring morning hearing about a woman named Wendy Ladner-Beaudry who was a great champion of KidSport and who was taken from this world shockingly and tragically earlier this year while out for an early morning jog in an as-of-yet unsolved murder case.  It was clear that this woman was both loved and respected for who she was and how she lived her life and it was very powerful to hear her husband, Michel Beaudry, speak about her and about what she believed in.  It was an honour to be there that morning and it is in her spirit that I dedicate the following story taken from Dr. Wayne Dyer’s book, The Power of Intention.  It’s all about what KidSport stands for which is inclusion and just having fun.  From what I heard about Wendy that morning, I think she would have liked this one.

In Brooklyn, New York, Chush is a school that caters to learning-disabled children.  Some children remain in Chush for their entire school career, while others can be mainstreamed into conventional schools.  At a Chush fundraiser dinner, the father of a Chush child delivered a speech that would never be forgotten by all who attended.  After extolling the school and its dedicated staff, he cried out, “Where is the perfection in my son, Shaya?  Everything God does is done with perfection.  But my child cannot understand things as other children do.  My child cannot remember facts and figures as other children do.  Where is God’s perfection?”  The audience was shocked by the question, pained by the father’s anguish, and stilled by the piercing query.

“I believe,” the father answered, “that when God brings a child like this into the world, the perfection that he seeks is in the way people react to this child.”  He then told the following story about his son, Shaya.

One afternoon Shaya and his father walked past a park where some boys Shaya knew were playing baseball.  Shaya asked, “Do you think they’ll let me play?”  Shaya’s father knew that his son was not at all athletic and that most boys would not want him on their team.  But Shaya’s father understood that if his son was chosen to play, it would give him a sense of belonging.  Shaya’s father approached one of the boys on the field and asked if Shaya could play.  The boy looked around for guidance from his teammates.  Getting none, he took matters into his own hands and said, “We’re losing by six runs, and the game is in the eighth inning.  I guess he can be on our team, and we’ll try to put him up to bat in the ninth inning.”

Shaya’s father was ecstatic as Shaya smiled broadly.  Shaya was told to put on a glove and go out to play in centre field.  In the bottom of the eight inning, Shaya’s team scored a few runs but was still behind by three.  In the bottom of the ninth inning, Shaya’s team scored again, and now had two outs and the bases loaded, with the potential winning run on base, Shaya was scheduled to be up.  Would the team actually let Shaya bat at this juncture and give away their chance to win the game?

Surprisingly, Shaya was given the bat.  Everyone knew that it was all but impossible because Shaya didn’t even know how to hold the bat properly, let alone hit with it.  How ever, as Shaya stepped up to the plate, the pitcher moved a few steps to lob the ball in softly so Shaya could at least be able to make contact.  The first pitch came in , and Shaya swung clumsily and missed.  One of the Saya’s teammates came up to Shaya, and together they held the bat and faced the pitcher waiting for the next pitch.  The pitcher again took a few steps forward to toss the ball softly toward Shaya.  As the pitch came in, Shaya and his teammate swung the bat, and together they hit a slow ground ball to the pitcher.  The pitcher picked up the soft grounder and could easily have thrown the ball to the first baseman.  Shaya would have been out and that would have ended the game.  Instead, the pitcher took the ball and threw it on a high arc to right field far beyond the reach of the first baseman.  Everyone started yelling, “Shaya, run to first. Run to first.”  Never in is life had Shaya run to first.  He scampered down the baseline wide-eyed and startled.  By the time he reached first base, the right-fielder had the ball.  He could have thrown the ball to the second baseman who would tag out Shaya, who was still running.

“Shaya would have been out and that would have ended the game.  Instead, the pitcher took the ball and threw it on a high arc to right field far beyond the reach of the first baseman.  Everyone started yelling, “Shaya, run to first. Run to first.”

But the right-fielder understood what the pitcher’s intentions were, so he threw the ball high and far over the third baseman’s head.  Everyone yelled, “Run to second, run to second.”  Shaya ran toward second base as the runners ahead of him deliriously circled the bases toward home.  As Shaya reached second base, the opposing shortstop ran to him, turned him in the direction of third base, and shouted, “Run to third.”  As Shaya rounded third, the boys from both teams ran behind him screaming, “Shaya, run home.”  Shaya ran home, stepped on home plate, and all 18 boys lifted him on their shoulders and made him the hero, as he had just hit a “grand slam” and won the game for his team.

“That day,” said the father softly with tears now rolling down his face, “those 18 boys reached their level of God’s perfection.”

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Follow-up…

I caught this commercial out of the blue on the television last night…  
http://www.values.com/tv_spots/106-Basketball
I thought it was great and it reminded me of the original post of this blog.  It also makes a great point – as my friend Matt Brown says, it’s not enough to just enroll our kids in sport and hope they get the right message and learn the right lessons.  You have to promote those things like the coach does in this commercial.

I think it’s also really good at portraying the reality that not everyone is going to feel the same way about making the right decision.  Shortly after seeing the commercial, I got this e-mail from a friend of mine…

“I have been playing ball hockey since this time last year in the same league.  My team was not so good.  That didn’t really matter to me as every game was fun and exciting and a great workout for me.  Some of the guys on my team could not check their anger, however.  I found this to be the cause of most of our losses.  And our losses were many.  As soon as anger crept in the wheels would fall off the wagon.  We did manage to have a team meeting where it was decided that anger was the issue.  The next game there was only six guys plus me in goal.  We kept the atmosphere light before the game and we laughed and joked and had no expectations of winning or game plans or anything.  And it was a fantastic game.  Only one sub for the entire game while the other team had 15 guys.  After the first period it was 4-3 for them.  We ended up losing 11-6.  Which I thought was pretty good considering the guys were like pylons near the end and I was peppered with probably 60 shots.  But no one got angry, and we had a great time, perhaps the best game of the season.”

“So, I felt a little let down when the captain told me I wouldn’t be asked back this season.  I didn’t think it was a skill problem or a goaltending problem.  Oh well, I sent the whole team a thank-you email about how great it was to play with the team and invited the others that were cut to join me.  I received one email back from one of the guys, thanking me for the time I put in.  And then today one of the better players said he will play on my team.  So that is encouraging.  What was really great though was that I got the link to your page the day I was canned from the team.  I read the story about the player that told the ref to reverse his call as the shot was out of bounds.  A similar thing happened in ball hockey just a few days before when only myself and the player on the other team saw the ball go in.  The ref asked me if it was in and I had to say yes.  That might have been when they decided to get rid of me from the team.  It was that story about the volleyball player that actually made me say “Yes, I will start my own team”.”

Thanks Torin for agreeing to let me post that.

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If you want to be successful, you should emulate successful people.  One of the main reasons why I started this blog was to present athletes that are very much worth emulating because they’re not just champions at their chosen sports, they’re also great people.  As I mentioned in the Origins section of this blog, living in Calgary has afforded me the opportunity to see first hand that many of the most successful athletes are that way at least in part because of values and/or attitudes about sport and about life.  This entry is about one very successful athlete who is also someone I would want my kids to emulate, let alone the athletes that I coach…

When I think about great sportsmanship and great champions, I think of a guy by the name of Gregor Staehli.  Gregor is a skeleton slider from Switzerland and to begin with, he is the most successful athlete in the history of the sport I competed in.  I think it’s important to mention his success as it may have played a role in terms of the attitude he has about competition.  He won his first World Championship medal in 1990 and won his first World Championships in 1994.  The year after winning bronze at the Torino Olympics, Gregor won his second World Championship gold medal on his home track in St. Moritz, Switzerland in what I assumed would be his last race.  However, after taking the 07/08 season off, Gregor returned to the World Cup circuit and claimed his third World title earlier this year.  In all, he has won a total of 8 World Championship medals as well as two Olympic medals.  I won’t try to guess how many World Cups he’s won over the years but you can assume it’s a lot.  Probably the single most impressive statistic about Gregor is the fact that if you averaged every one of his World Cup races over his entire career including his rookie year, he averaged a 4th place finish!

Obviously he’s been tremendously successful in his career and Gregor had been sliding and winning for many years before I met him so I can’t say if his attitude developed over time or if it had always been the same but I do know this: when you’ve won that often and for that many years, what value does competition still hold for you?  What makes you keep training to get better?  Clearly the answer has nothing to do with winning yet another medal or trophy.  The answer, I believe, is the challenge.  And this is a very key concept – when you realize that the great joy of sport is in the challenge, then the better the competitors are, the greater the challenge, and the greater the reward if you are able to ultimately succeed.

“…when you realize that the great joy of sport is in the challenge, then the better the competitors are, the greater the challenge, and the greater the reward if you are able to ultimately succeed.”

Another way of expressing it is like this – if there was no challenge, if it was easy, there would be no reward.  How exciting would it be for a guy with Gregor’s resume to beat you because you had a bad day?  For him, is that something worth writing home about?  No.  When Gregor Staehli wished you luck, he truly wanted you to have your best race.  Then, if you did and he beat you, that meant something.  As a consequence, I can tell you first hand that it created a great atmosphere to both compete in and achieve your best in.  Competing against Gregor was an honor and pleasure, and on the few occasions that I was able to beat him, he was always very sincere in his congratulations.  I’d even say that after my first win at the World level, what made that experience even greater than it already was, was the support and sincere happiness that some of my competitors had for my success and Gregor was a big part of that.

“When Gregor Staehli wished you luck, he truly wanted you to have your best race.  Then, if you did and he beat you, that meant something.”

As the current World Champion and because of his success at the Whistler World Cup last year in which he won a silver medal, Gregor has to be considered a medal favourite for the Vancouver / Whistler Games coming up in February.  Of Course I’ll be hoping for some Canadian sliders to be on the podium but if Gregor found his way up there too, I’d be just as pleased for him as he was for me when I had my moment.

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Follow-up…

From time to time I’ll post an e-mail or comment that I think has an interesting point or perspective and so here’s the first.  It speaks to the value of sport for all ages and respect for one’s opponent.  Thanks for that Bob.

G’day Duff: Your message reminds me of our old school sports motto, “It’s not whether you win or lose, but how you play the game.” And the inference there was that you played with the proper respect for your opponent(s). It’s a motto I’ve applied to all aspects of my life. Sport is great for young and old. My two old mates and I (74, 76 & 82) gather every Saturday for a hit of tennis. We are all struggling with one minor complaint or another which comes with age, but when we get out on the court, all that side of our lives is forgotten. We thank Doctor Tennis for the great time we have together. All the best,

Bob

Merimbula, Australia

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1. Sport At Its Best

Mr. Little was a teacher and volleyball coach at Bridlewood Junior Public School when I was a student there in the late ‘70’s. What was so cool (and for me there isn’t a more apt word than ‘cool’) about Mr. Little was that he was actually a volleyball referee at the 1976 Olympics in Montreal.

Montreal was my first exposure to the Olympics and immediately it had a powerful effect on me. To this day I can clearly remember watching many of the events including Nadia Comaneci getting her perfect 10′s in gymnastics and Bruce Jenner winning the decathlon. I can also remember the high jump in which fellow Canadian Greg Joy won a silver medal behind Jacek Wszola of Poland but ahead of the heavily favored Dwight Stones of the United States. Watching those and many other events, I knew somehow I wanted to be a part of that.  I didn’t even care what sport it would be in – they were all great.

At the time you can imagine what it was like for us on the volleyball team having a coach that had played such an important role in that event. It was pretty special.  During one particular practice we were arguing as to whether a ball was in or out when Mr. Little called us over and told us about a match at the Olympics in which he had been a backup referee sitting at the official’s table immediately adjacent to the court.

As the story goes, there was a rally that ended when one team spiked the ball toward the opposing team’s baseline. Although very close to the line, the ball was out but was incorrectly called in by the line judge. The player that hit the ball actually went to the referee and explained that he had hit the ball out and that the call should be reversed. At which point a player on the opposing team, having overheard this, stepped forward and stated that he had touched the ball on the way out and that therefore the call was correct. I don’t know if Mr. Little actually said it or not but his inference was that the player who claimed to have touched the ball, hadn’t.

“The player that hit the ball actually went to the referee and explained that he had hit the ball out and that the call should be reversed.”

Whether he had or hadn’t, the interpretation is the same. There was respect for the opponent and the game and the process to the extent that both players were willing to give up a point they felt they hadn’t earned. I don’t believe Mr. Little specifically stated whom the teams involved were but I understood that they were elite teams of the competition who were vying for medals.

I don’t remember how we did as a team that year or even if we won a single game, but I remember that story. Being so enthralled by the Olympics and hearing a first-hand account from someone who was not just there, but an integral part of it, was extremely impactful to me. I remember thinking at the time ‘this must be how Olympians act’ and I still feel the story is an illustration of sport at it’s absolute best. The athletes Mr. Little talked about clearly had a great deal of respect for the game, the officials, their opponents and the process. And it’s also a great expression of the value they placed on the relationship between how hard you work for something and your own personal satisfaction. On their respective journeys to the medal podium, neither wanted to accept a single point that wasn’t earned.

This story remains an inspiration for me and in part, as a way of honoring Mr. Little and other great role models I have had and continue to have in my life, I’ve decided to call this blog Sport At It’s Best. It’s just one story, but I think it’s a great one. Hopefully it’s also a good jumping off point for a discussion about attitudes and values, and more specifically how attitudes and values can play a significant role in the development and ultimate success of an athlete. My belief is that it was no coincidence that the athletes in Mr. Little’s story were world leading athletes vying for medals at an Olympic Games.

Attitude and success go hand in hand.

Thanks for reading.

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